let it go

Why do we hold on so tight to the way we perceive things "have to be"? Why do things need to be a certain way for us to believe it is the only way we can be happy? Why can't we be happy or at least at peace with the way things are right now? There is never a "perfect" time in anyone's life which lasts forever. And usually looking back, our memories tend to have made certain untenable situations all of a sudden wonderful?There is no point in looking back, unless to gain practical knowledge. There is only the present to be concerned with, so why not enjoy this moment. Why think of things to make yourself miserable or to disconnect you from your current circumstances? I am not saying to avoid an unpleasant situation, but to be in the moment and deal with what you can "now" and what cannot be dealt with now......does not need to be thought of now. You will have what you need in the time that the situation will be dealt with. And many times in life it is not how we pictured it, even when we have achieved so much on the outside--how can it be so empty? And the realization with achievement that "more" achievement or material things still does not fill that empty space? It is simple really, stop living in a future moment or a past moment. Let things be as they are, accept them and you will find peace that you never knew existed. For more on this topic please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

Coaching to solve problems

A company has a responsibility to give the highest value to their clientele. One way to accomplish this is to coach your clients to solve their own issues. By giving a certain autonomy in a service you offer, the client learns more about the service than if you had done everything for them. Also, this helps them to provide you with feedback on how you can improve the service, its ease of use or any other additions/deletions which would impact the service and your bottom line.

Anticipating what your customer wants is key to establishing a relationship. You understand their needs, strategies and preferences before they even articulate them to you. Educating your customer and dealing with complaints is also good business. I will discuss these more in depth in future blogs. But the bottom line is to provide your client with the tools to problem solve on their own. They will establish a relationship with you that is built on your anticipation of their needs and the education you have provided with your service or product. If their business flourishes, chances are so will yours. For more discussion on this topic, please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

More from the prophet

"Your daily is your temple and your religion. Whenever you enter into it take with you your all. Take the plough and the forge and the mallett and the lute, The things you have fashioned in necessity or for delight. For in revery you cannot rise above your achievements nor fall lower than your failures. And take with you all men: For in adoration you cannot fly higher than their hopes nor humble yourself lower than despair."Do you find this paragraph, limiting or freeing? Do you see this as truth or as something with no meaning? Please write to me at www.thepsychiccoach.com with comments.

dating again

I have done several readings lately with women who are entirely frustrated by their dating life or are sick and tired of being alone. There is nothing you can do to speed any process along. Nothing at all. Buy a candle, burn some incense, perform some other magic trick and you will still find yourself back at square one. The resounding theme in these readings was the feeling of frustration and anger in always ending up back at square one. As though they were again repeating a cycle. A cycle which had become very onld and worn out. A cycle which made them want to lose their minds or accost people walking down the street to vent their increasing frustration. I understand, I have been there myself. These clients felt as though they had lived their life in every way possible. Either dating ad nauseum, not dating at all, thinking they were moving ahead in their life by joining some club or taking on a new interest, or they thought if they went to every event they were invited to they would meet Mr.Right only to find that they did all of this and the same thing happened over and over. They would go on a date, the guy seemed good for them and nothing would happen. Or they went on a date and were sorta into the guy, but not really. They may have kept dating him, thinking he was their last chance for happiness or after stopping dating the "nice" guy a situation arises a few months later. Usually following a particularly emotional experience such as a wedding, they decide that "nice" guy may have been the one they let go and he was their only opportunity for happiness. This is all too much work. Too much thought and too much time wasted is the bottom line. When I say "live" your life--live it NOW. Not in the promise of meeting that wonderful guy as you learn scuba diving or take up golf or join the gym cuz you want to meet someone. Do these things for yourself if you want, with absolutely no thought as to meeting any man. That is the key. And again, having heard from women who said they have done these things and came up with "zero"... I say it is because somewhere in your mind meeting the man was still a goal in all these activities. Otherwise...why the disappointment and frustration? It shouldn't matter if your goal was to just "live" your life. The frustration from waiting or repeating cycles can be very depressing. So, not that it is a snap of the fingers, but acceptance of the reality for what it is ---becomes the first step. It does not mean you are "giving up" it means you are not fighting it. You are stopping the struggle. Don't you feel better already? Please provide feedback to me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

dating and the "one"

Seems to be a hot topic with many of my clients right now. I do not believe there is just one person for us. It does not mean you should keep mowing through relationships, it just means there is more than one possible person for each of us who we could have a long term relationship with in this lifetime. The thing it seems as that as we get older and remain single or become single again, the field changes. Many people find themselves in a dysfunctional relationship that they are afraid to leave, because they fear there is nothing else. They settle for someoe who cannot fulfill a tenth of their needs all because fear of the unkown...of the discomfort in having to be alone for awhile or maybe a long time, is just too scary. It is too bad, because the small amount of happiness you receive in a bad relationship(if you receive any at all) is nothing in comparison to what you can have being on your own. At least on your own you have options and the freedom to choose. It seems that living your life fully, you would be bound to meet the "one" or one who can fulfill a greater amount of your needs. Instead of doing what you don't want to, so you can find someone to take the loneliness away; re-focus the energy into things you enjoy. This will feel different, because the frustration, anger, feeling like you are pruposely being punished by only meeting dunderheads will dissipaite. It will no longer be your main focus. You will stop "waiting" for the "one" or someone who is close to that ideal. You have to take pleasure in your life and get off the treadmill of duty dating or hiding out in a cave so no one can find you.....live it to the fullest! Enjoy the adventure and if Mr. wonderful comes tripping along, then won't it feel better than having had to go "hunting" for him? If you have thoughts to share, please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

dating-acceptance

There is much on this topic I can post, based on my own experiences, my clients and a wide world of friends. Acceptance is a huge issue. If you are constantly after someone to change their behavior to suit your needs, no amount of nagging or game playing will affect the change on a permanent basis. Maybe temporarily as a threat to their possibly losing you or some other negative incentive, will you find someone cowtowing to another's demands. And why should it? Why should people believe they have the right to put their "perception" of how someone should act on another person? Who says you are right? Who says this person needs to change? And beyond that, maybe it is the constant nagging that could make someone more resitant to fulfilling your needs? Another way of seeing this is to ask yourself how easy it is for you to change. How many women do try to mold themselves into what they believe a man wants, only to be fighting a constant battle with themselves? And the loser is usually the woman's self esteem and identity, since she is become someone she "believes" the man would want. Is she happy? How can anyone be happy in twisting and contorting themselves into another person to please someone else? What is the point? So, the other person is happy...is that the point? Well, the other person is probably not happy or if they are happy with the situation and you, then they only care about their needs and not yours. And again, what is the point? I think we all owe it to ourselves to be happy and to be with someone who accepts us for who we are.....why go nuts trying to fit a mold that you may eventually break? Causing yourself extreme amounts of discomfort and pain, or just pure unhappiness. You should have the ability to live your life to its fullest with people who appreciate you and accept the great qualities, along with the not so great qualities. If you have feedback you'd like to provide, please contact me at www.thepsychiccoach.com thanks!

Keep it simple

We live in an age of easily accessible information that it can become almost overwhelming. How much is too much information? How much information do you need to find peace or to live a happy and creative existence? Not much. We all perceive ourselves as different from one another; except for the facts that we all need sleep, to breathe, eat and of course relieve ourselves. We are all connected though. And more alike than different. It is all very simple. A spiritual journey or a creative pursuit need not be complex. It can be very simple. You can read books about spirituality or finding your true passion or setting goals and almost each book says the same thing. And in the end you have fed your mind but not your soul or your passion or your being. Your being needs no feeding, because it is already perfect. That is simple. You do not need to improve yourself, only know yourself--that is simple. When you know your being, when you are present in the moment, you can set true goals which make sense for you and not to please someone else. It is so simple. Why make it complex? Why make a problem out of things? Be present, accept and go through your emotions. Don't dwell and make things complex. It is simple really. If you would like to know more about keeping it simple, please email me at my website at www.thepsychiccoach.com