Practicing the Power of Now in your life.

let it go

2005-06-12T10:57:00.000-07:00

Why do we hold on so tight to the way we perceive things "have to be"? Why do things need to be a certain way for us to believe it is the only way we can be happy? Why can't we be happy or at least at peace with the way things are right now? There is never a "perfect" time in anyone's life which lasts forever. And usually looking back, our memories tend to have made certain untenable situations all of a sudden wonderful?There is no point in looking back, unless to gain practical knowledge. There is only the present to be concerned with, so why not enjoy this moment. Why think of things to make yourself miserable or to disconnect you from your current circumstances? I am not saying to avoid an unpleasant situation, but to be in the moment and deal with what you can "now" and what cannot be dealt with now......does not need to be thought of now. You will have what you need in the time that the situation will be dealt with. And many times in life it is not how we pictured it, even when we have achieved so much on the outside--how can it be so empty? And the realization with achievement that "more" achievement or material things still does not fill that empty space? It is simple really, stop living in a future moment or a past moment. Let things be as they are, accept them and you will find peace that you never knew existed. For more on this topic please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

Coaching to solve problems

2005-06-06T11:16:00.000-07:00

A company has a responsibility to give the highest value to their clientele. One way to accomplish this is to coach your clients to solve their own issues. By giving a certain autonomy in a service you offer, the client learns more about the service than if you had done everything for them. Also, this helps them to provide you with feedback on how you can improve the service, its ease of use or any other additions/deletions which would impact the service and your bottom line.

Anticipating what your customer wants is key to establishing a relationship. You understand their needs, strategies and preferences before they even articulate them to you. Educating your customer and dealing with complaints is also good business. I will discuss these more in depth in future blogs. But the bottom line is to provide your client with the tools to problem solve on their own. They will establish a relationship with you that is built on your anticipation of their needs and the education you have provided with your service or product. If their business flourishes, chances are so will yours. For more discussion on this topic, please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

More from the prophet

2005-05-26T23:06:00.000-07:00

"Your daily is your temple and your religion. Whenever you enter into it take with you your all. Take the plough and the forge and the mallett and the lute, The things you have fashioned in necessity or for delight. For in revery you cannot rise above your achievements nor fall lower than your failures. And take with you all men: For in adoration you cannot fly higher than their hopes nor humble yourself lower than despair."Do you find this paragraph, limiting or freeing? Do you see this as truth or as something with no meaning? Please write to me at www.thepsychiccoach.com with comments.

dating again

2005-05-25T10:43:00.000-07:00

I have done several readings lately with women who are entirely frustrated by their dating life or are sick and tired of being alone. There is nothing you can do to speed any process along. Nothing at all. Buy a candle, burn some incense, perform some other magic trick and you will still find yourself back at square one. The resounding theme in these readings was the feeling of frustration and anger in always ending up back at square one. As though they were again repeating a cycle. A cycle which had become very onld and worn out. A cycle which made them want to lose their minds or accost people walking down the street to vent their increasing frustration. I understand, I have been there myself. These clients felt as though they had lived their life in every way possible. Either dating ad nauseum, not dating at all, thinking they were moving ahead in their life by joining some club or taking on a new interest, or they thought if they went to every event they were invited to they would meet Mr.Right only to find that they did all of this and the same thing happened over and over. They would go on a date, the guy seemed good for them and nothing would happen. Or they went on a date and were sorta into the guy, but not really. They may have kept dating him, thinking he was their last chance for happiness or after stopping dating the "nice" guy a situation arises a few months later. Usually following a particularly emotional experience such as a wedding, they decide that "nice" guy may have been the one they let go and he was their only opportunity for happiness. This is all too much work. Too much thought and too much time wasted is the bottom line. When I say "live" your life--live it NOW. Not in the promise of meeting that wonderful guy as you learn scuba diving or take up golf or join the gym cuz you want to meet someone. Do these things for yourself if you want, with absolutely no thought as to meeting any man. That is the key. And again, having heard from women who said they have done these things and came up with "zero"... I say it is because somewhere in your mind meeting the man was still a goal in all these activities. Otherwise...why the disappointment and frustration? It shouldn't matter if your goal was to just "live" your life. The frustration from waiting or repeating cycles can be very depressing. So, not that it is a snap of the fingers, but acceptance of the reality for what it is ---becomes the first step. It does not mean you are "giving up" it means you are not fighting it. You are stopping the struggle. Don't you feel better already? Please provide feedback to me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

dating and the "one"

2005-05-24T07:06:00.000-07:00

Seems to be a hot topic with many of my clients right now. I do not believe there is just one person for us. It does not mean you should keep mowing through relationships, it just means there is more than one possible person for each of us who we could have a long term relationship with in this lifetime. The thing it seems as that as we get older and remain single or become single again, the field changes. Many people find themselves in a dysfunctional relationship that they are afraid to leave, because they fear there is nothing else. They settle for someoe who cannot fulfill a tenth of their needs all because fear of the unkown...of the discomfort in having to be alone for awhile or maybe a long time, is just too scary. It is too bad, because the small amount of happiness you receive in a bad relationship(if you receive any at all) is nothing in comparison to what you can have being on your own. At least on your own you have options and the freedom to choose. It seems that living your life fully, you would be bound to meet the "one" or one who can fulfill a greater amount of your needs. Instead of doing what you don't want to, so you can find someone to take the loneliness away; re-focus the energy into things you enjoy. This will feel different, because the frustration, anger, feeling like you are pruposely being punished by only meeting dunderheads will dissipaite. It will no longer be your main focus. You will stop "waiting" for the "one" or someone who is close to that ideal. You have to take pleasure in your life and get off the treadmill of duty dating or hiding out in a cave so no one can find you.....live it to the fullest! Enjoy the adventure and if Mr. wonderful comes tripping along, then won't it feel better than having had to go "hunting" for him? If you have thoughts to share, please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

dating-acceptance

2005-05-23T09:55:00.000-07:00

There is much on this topic I can post, based on my own experiences, my clients and a wide world of friends. Acceptance is a huge issue. If you are constantly after someone to change their behavior to suit your needs, no amount of nagging or game playing will affect the change on a permanent basis. Maybe temporarily as a threat to their possibly losing you or some other negative incentive, will you find someone cowtowing to another's demands. And why should it? Why should people believe they have the right to put their "perception" of how someone should act on another person? Who says you are right? Who says this person needs to change? And beyond that, maybe it is the constant nagging that could make someone more resitant to fulfilling your needs? Another way of seeing this is to ask yourself how easy it is for you to change. How many women do try to mold themselves into what they believe a man wants, only to be fighting a constant battle with themselves? And the loser is usually the woman's self esteem and identity, since she is become someone she "believes" the man would want. Is she happy? How can anyone be happy in twisting and contorting themselves into another person to please someone else? What is the point? So, the other person is happy...is that the point? Well, the other person is probably not happy or if they are happy with the situation and you, then they only care about their needs and not yours. And again, what is the point? I think we all owe it to ourselves to be happy and to be with someone who accepts us for who we are.....why go nuts trying to fit a mold that you may eventually break? Causing yourself extreme amounts of discomfort and pain, or just pure unhappiness. You should have the ability to live your life to its fullest with people who appreciate you and accept the great qualities, along with the not so great qualities. If you have feedback you'd like to provide, please contact me at www.thepsychiccoach.com thanks!

Keep it simple

2005-05-22T11:32:00.000-07:00

We live in an age of easily accessible information that it can become almost overwhelming. How much is too much information? How much information do you need to find peace or to live a happy and creative existence? Not much. We all perceive ourselves as different from one another; except for the facts that we all need sleep, to breathe, eat and of course relieve ourselves. We are all connected though. And more alike than different. It is all very simple. A spiritual journey or a creative pursuit need not be complex. It can be very simple. You can read books about spirituality or finding your true passion or setting goals and almost each book says the same thing. And in the end you have fed your mind but not your soul or your passion or your being. Your being needs no feeding, because it is already perfect. That is simple. You do not need to improve yourself, only know yourself--that is simple. When you know your being, when you are present in the moment, you can set true goals which make sense for you and not to please someone else. It is so simple. Why make it complex? Why make a problem out of things? Be present, accept and go through your emotions. Don't dwell and make things complex. It is simple really. If you would like to know more about keeping it simple, please email me at my website at www.thepsychiccoach.com

Where is it?

2005-05-21T23:11:00.000-07:00

Can you ignore your true passion? As you have gotten older have you left that part of yourself in the past? Do you feel a disconnection to yourself in which you ignore or compartmentalize the "pain" you carry around? You hope by finding activities to distract you or situations to involve yourself in that the pain will just go away and it doesn't. This is a disconnection to yourself. One in which your inner life will not truly blossom, until you stop. Until you stop thinking and doing. Until you can just be. And that would be to be fully aware or yourself, no fear of what you might find. To be fully aware of yourself is to release that pain and know where your creativity lies. For creativity is pure energy. And pure energy is everything in and of this world, seen and unseen. Releasing the pain you deny is the biggest favor you can do for yourself. It will free you to live your life fully. It will free you to be open to new experiences without pain. And it will put you in touch with who you really are and the creativity which comes will be welcome. I have clients who are trying to find their passion. The first thing I ask is that they quiet their minds. Many believe they cannot meditate. And so I ask them to do 2 or 3 simple tasks which will stop the thinking and bring them into the present moment. Because, there should be "no" technique you have to employ to find your passion and quiet your mind in the process...I provide several signs along the way, which will gently guide you toward realization. If you are interested in more about this topic, please fell free to join my newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com

communication

2005-05-20T10:30:00.000-07:00

remember as a child many of us played the game "telephone". Normally, by the time it reached the end of the line, whatever had originally been stated by the first person ended up being something completely different by the time it got to the last person? And more interesting is how as adults this happens quite often? Your business associate tells you something that is "slightly" critical regarding the performance of another employee in passing. Maybe she wanted to gain your support in her viewpoint, so she shared this information with you. She really was looking to be right in her perception by gaining approval from others. You are having a casual conversation with another co-worker and pass the information along. Pretty soon the whole office has heard, except now the rumor is this employee is going to be fired. One small piece of information relayed to anyone usually shifts with the perception of the recipient of the information.Worse is when we let words from others shift our own perception of ourselves. We become our own worst enemy through words. It is all a perception. Through changing the communication you have with yourself, you change the world around you. Feed yourself no words. If an image of yourself comes to mind, know you are okay. You are good. You are not the victim of words with no basis in reality. You are engaging in less chatter in your mind, most which is errant and leads you to a place of misery. Instead you are freeing yourself from any perception and just living. Eventually it will be that simple. If you wish to hear more on this subject please email me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

The world

2005-05-19T07:03:00.000-07:00

Everything is made of atoms. Everything you can see and not see. Therefore everything is made of energy. A shared energy, because where would the energy end--it is all connected, is it not? When you meditate do you feel your own energy inside of your body? Do you feel the energy around you? The sunlight, nature, other people, the walls of your home, the small ant searching for food--aren't these all forms of energy that when you pay attention in the moment to them, you feel a core of inner peace? Does it bring a new understanding or a level of awareness to you?It is a higher state of reality to "see" things as they are, no interpretation necessary. The reality is beyond physical form. The connectedness to everything is on a much deeper level and I find when I meditate or run, I feel that state of connectedness more intensely. What makes you feel connected? If you would like to answer some of these questions, please feel free to contact me at my website www.thepsychiccoach.com

Pain

2005-05-18T09:12:00.000-07:00

Kihlal Gibran was a philosopher, poet and artist. His most well-known piece written in English is The Prophet. From time to time on the blog, I will mention a passage from the book. Today the topic is pain. In the book, Almustafa is speaking to the people of the city Orphalese. A woman asks him to tell of pain. He says: Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must brea, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy; And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields. And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief. Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility: For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen, And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay the Potter moistened with His own sacred tears. I would love to hear feedback from anyone who wants to share it on this particular passage. If you want to be included in my newsletter, please email me at my website www.thepsychiccoach.com

what happens in the first coaching session

2005-05-17T13:24:00.000-07:00

I am often asked what to expect in the initial coaching session.One of the first questions asked is the purpose of coaching. Why the client needs a coach? Is it a specific situation, goal or behavior? I then ask them to explain the "story" of their life situation. I look for the perception someone has in how they see the world and how they assess possibilities, choices and situations. Then once the purpose of hiring me to coach is established and I have some background information about the individual, we move on to discuss goals, problems and development steps. My goal as the coach is to help remove obstacles to success. I coach by "asking" rather than telling. Even when I combine the psychic reading with coaching, I may deliver information pertinent to the situation, but I still will never tell someone what they "must" do. That is a personal decision. I may provide psychic impressions, which may then be a touchstone to the client in brainstorming ways to overcome an obstacle. On a coaching level I may offer suggestions and will aid in creating a plan of action. The first meeting briefly touches on the information above. I usually like to have a 90 minute session to begin with, so that proper assessment can take place in one session rather than two. If you would like to learn more about coaching and want to ask me questions, please feel free to email me at my website: www.thepsychiccoach.com

Action!

2005-05-16T23:58:00.000-07:00

Action can begin or be curtailed depending on the language we use. To make things happen "now" in the present moment make a declaration, do not "hope" things will turn out. If you declare something, it is more likely that you will make the effort to create the situation, instead of passively "hoping" it will. The important thing to remember is even if you are declaring something you deem important, you must still remain flexible and open to alternate outcomes. You should as much as possible make the present moment as important as the goal. It is not about getting there, it is the road there which also counts. A goal once attained can be very empty if you have ignored the current moment as being only a "means to an end". When you live in each moment, the fixation on the goal lessens. There is joy in the moment. You still plan and proceed toward your vision, but you do it "now". You declare "now" will be the moment you start to live as if you have already achieved your goal, you live life to its fullest and when you actually do accomplish your goal --you will embrace it on a different level. It will not be the "end all", but just another experience along the way in your life that brings you joy as every moment should. Please email with your own experience when taking action in your life, I would like ot put experiences from others into my monthly newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com

self importance

2005-05-15T14:04:00.000-07:00

We live in a society which promotes self-importance. There is a huge amount of self-entitlement many believe are owed to them, simply because they exist. Or things have gone wrong and they believe in their perception of life, life owes them a happy ending. The encouragement abounds in people believing someone else's thought process or beliefs are wrong if they do not "agree" with their own. How small-minded is this thinking? Is this sort of thinking at all considered to be taking in the differences among human beings and that no one is wrong? People are born with a clean slate. People are taught after birth that they must struggle to attain their own way--as if it is a desired goal. With this infusion of Self-Importance, the normal behavior is to argue and lose one's temper. All the while, claiming it is the fault of someone else that has made them mad, because the other person is stubborn . Getting fixated on what others say, they turn their mind into its own hell. Mulling and dwelling over useless things, repeating the same thoughts over and over again. People are foolish to continue wasting such energy. Going from one hellish state to another--from darkness to drkness. It is infinite misery when you dwell on the "bad" things you have done or situations you want to change but are beyond your control. The key is to let go. Don't dwell--nothing good ever comes from dwelling. Kicking yourself in the rear end over and over accomplishes nothing too. Use the practical aspects of lessons learned and apply them to your life, but do not spend psychological time dwelling on "should have" , "could have" or "would have". Remember we are all connected, everything on this Earth that you can see has life in it and therefore there is no need to push your "self" to the forefront as if you are all that matters. Just go with the flow and let go. if you wish to hear more on this topic please email me at my website www.thepsychiccoach.com

Work

2005-05-14T09:06:00.000-07:00

I have numerous sales people as clients in my coaching business. When it comes to approaching a prospective client and they do not have the highest level of confidence that a sale will be made, there are key questions I ask and help I offer to my client in this situation. There are 5 key questions I ask my client. Number 1: I ask my client if they would like me to help prepare them for the sales call? Number 2: I ask my client what are the two or three outcomes they would like to happen from the meeting? Number 3: What are the possible 2 or 3 important customer needs that we could satisfy during that meeting? Number 4: What are the two or three questions we could ask the potential customer during the meeting, which would have the highest impact on allowing us to achieve one or all of the outcomes we want to happen as a result? Number 5: What would be two or three opening questions or statements, we could use that would get the meeting off to its best possible start? I spent several years in sales and marketing. I worked with clients from entertainment to medical, from cosmetic to apparel. I covered a lot of ground and one thing I made sure prior to entering the room with a potential client, was to stay relaxed and be myself. Most of the time I received the results I desired and sometimes beyond. If you would like to learn more about how coaching can help you to achieve results, please look at my website and if you like, you can sign up for my coaching newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com

A lesson in creativity

2005-05-13T06:49:00.000-07:00

Take a particular goal you would like to make happen in your life. Forget the rules you know or believe are a true indicator of your limitations. Let them go for a few minutes. If you can for longer--good for you. We are going to inspire creativity. Putting rules aside and applying the following to help you forget the rules. Number one forget the past. Number two allow intuition to surface and be trusted. Number three do not make the goal the absolute end result, you can "guess" what it might be, but stay flexible. Number four treat deceit or falseness as a transformation. Number five treat experience as the belief. Now even though it is 5 things to remember, they make it more inspiring to open up to creativity. In essence, you are first not living in the past--which if you tend to spend time there your creativity is limited--and will more than likely inspire more past in the future. When you allow your intuition to take over--many things will come in which you may not have allowed before. If you do not "live and die" by your goal, but make it into an idea there is no longer such a strong "attachment" to having things turn out in a certain way; this loosening of your grip actually allows creativity to enter the picture. When things come into your space which are known to be false, look at them as transformations into truth. And believe your experiences "practically" to be the theory. Practical application--not psychological dwelling. If you want to hear more about different ways to find creativity, please visit my website and sign up for my newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com

Time Magazine

2005-05-12T06:07:00.000-07:00

This week's Time Magazine has an article regarding mid-life crisis for women. I had a friend mail me a hard copy of the article, since she thought it fit so many women she knew who could relate to the theme. I always say, you only live once as far as you know(and if you have more lives you aren't going to remember them on a conscious level anyway) so, why not enjoy the time you have here where you can. Life should not be drudgery and if it is, stop where you can and evaluate what changes you can make that are practical in your life. Whether it is your job, relationships, etc...make realistic changes, yet do not expect the outside to fulfill you completely. Because if it is only an outer or cosmetic change, the way you feel inside will not change. The inner is not about thinking or dwelling on things, it is about letting go and accepting. Once you can bring pain up and face it--go through it and finally accept its reality, the more apt you are to make outer changes which reflect your inner being. I would love to hear feedback on this article, so if it interests you, please contact me at www.thepsychiccoach.com

Night of the Soul

2005-05-11T07:52:00.000-07:00

This phrase was used often by a spiritual teacher of mine many years ago. She was giving a name to what I was going through back then. I will say that it was a very long night! Releasing in that time many inner demons and the absolute stillness of my existence. It was like spiritual constipation for a long time. I was not so blind during the letting go of pain, which I carried in abundance to notice the "peace" creeping in. Never had I experienced the sense of grounding and unshakeable being in my life. There was a definite change in perception and my inner experience. Instead of my mind going a million miles an hour and causing me great anxiety or depression. There was nothing. There was nothing for hours at a time. Then more pain would come up to the light to be healed. The outside circumstances of my existence forced the issue. Then with the internal changes came external changes. I no longer had the same drive to do or live the way I had in the past. In the time since this "night of the soul" I have experienced visits on a less intense level, but each one brings me more peace. There is no end to the level of peace you can attain in a life time, it keeps growing expotentially. If you have experienced anything like this. please feel free to write to me at my website www.thepsychiccoach.com I will have this subject in a future newsletter.

Independence-Teaching of Zen

2005-05-10T12:08:00.000-07:00

There is no other task but to know your own original face. This is called independence; the spirit is clear and free. If you say there is some particular doctrine or patriarchy, you'll be totally cheated. Just look into your heart; there is a transcendental clarity. Just have no greed and no dependency and you will immediately attain certainty. Yen-t'ou(828-887)

I like this teaching for it shows the power of looking inside your heart, not your mind. It shows your true self or being is clearly there and it is not full of greed and dependency, so to empty your mind of these characteristics will give you certainty or in other words it will give you the inner peace you already have, you will just have nothing in the way. Many spiritual teaching state the same end result, they may use different words, but the meaning is usually the same. If you have thoughts on this quote, please feel free to email me at my website www.thepsychiccoach.com any time.

The Way

2005-05-08T13:59:00.000-07:00

Tao means "The Way". It is the Way to live by non-doing. There are similar philosophies. The Tao is a dynamic peace and mystery(the unknown or that whic h is not known), neither passivity or struggle. It is the source of presence, creation and fulfillment. It is not dependant on anything. It does not matter your race, creed, culture or any other boundaries of separation. It is an openess to truth, to the unknown and not creating a label for all that "is". Acceptance of your reality, releasing the struggle against what you cannot accept. Taoism was brought forth 500 years before Christ. There are 4 tenets to the foundation of Taoism. The 1st is Tao underlies all things.The 2nd is all human action which is in harmony with Tao is spontaneous, without effort and a source which never is boundless. In other words: There is no premeditation in Being. There is no struggle in Being. There is no limit to Being. And all flows together when you choose to not force things to "have to be a certain way in your reality". The 3rd tenet is an individual who is a master or a sage which means a person who is free from desire and strife (they are not run by their mind--they accept what "is"). The 4th is if the sage or master is a leader than he/she will lead the people to a state of harmony with Tao. Many books I have read on spirituality. Many have similar statements and practices. All basically leading us to the same place. A higher state of conciousness, one with a silent mind that is not controlled by external circumstances. Inner peace is at the core or a "being" in harmony. If you are interested in hearing more on this subject matter or would like to continue a discussion, please visit my website at www.thepsychiccoach.com any time and email me.

habits

2005-05-07T11:54:00.000-07:00

From the pages of "Where there is light" by Paramahansa Yogananda. "It takes time for even a bad habit to attain supremacy, so why be impatient about the growth of a rival good habit? Do not despair about your undesirable habits; simply stop feeding them and thus making them strong by repitition.The time that elapses in the formation of habits varies with individual nervous systems and brains and is chiefly determined by the quality of attention." In other words do not dwell on what you believe are your bad habits. If you have bad habits, which most of us do...accept them. That way you can make room for the good habits to come on board. The good habits are a perception, maybe it should be a more peaceful way of living instead of "good habit". I talk more about this concept in my newsletter, which you can sign up for at www.thepsychiccoach.com . Whenever we try to make a change there is inner resistance, trying to accept it rather than actually "change" it will yield peace quicker. What you cannot control or change--you accept and therefore comes a change without "willing it or struggle". You can call it a habit, a perception, life situation, being more present than in your head, allowing yourself to accept all parts you label good or bad is the key. Accept yourself and others and you will find a great amount of peace.

If

2005-05-06T18:54:00.000-07:00

If everyone in the world was at peace, the world would no longer have suffering and pain. People would not inflect their pain upon others, because they would ot be living in pain. I have often thought of how celebrities represent non-profit organizations meant to help people with external needs. And not to malign those efforts or to diminish how far-reaching they are in terms of helping those who are starving or without shelter, that is not the point here. When I see commercials or advertising for a telethon or another fundraiser I wonder if there could be so much support for inner peace. If everyone who supported these organizations decided to also support the embracing of inner peace. Creating a higher state of conciousness world-wide. It would seem highly probable that these other organizations would no longer have such a heavy burden. There would be no more wars, refugees or victims of war, starvation, prejudice, violent crimes, poverty, etc... The inner would change the outer reality. No one would be separate anymore and it could be that simple. If you have thoughts on this subject and want to respond, please contact me through my website at www.thepsychiccoach.com and let me know your views.

Strange coincidences?

2005-05-05T09:03:00.000-07:00

Being psychic comes with its share of impressions and feelings. When something on a grander scale is about to occur be it an earthquake, plane crash or other devastating news, I know it. It is a feeling I cannot rid myself of because it does not come from inside my mind. It is part of what "is" and 99% of the time it worsens at night, so I cannot sleep. The impression I do not seek out, it finds me and I do not analyze or try to figure it out, but it stays with me nonetheless. Upon waking I find the impression has come to life and be it one of the major catastrophes including the world trade center crashing down, or a plane crash with 240 people on board it has happened. One of the things with "knowing" is you have both negative and positive events and situations which find you. As I have grown older, I have more control over events entering my mind and lodging there. It is not to say I feel no empathy or sympathy or horror at events, it is that I used to be a human sponge sucking up all emotion from everywhere and not knowing why I felt the way I did most of the time. Even when I give a reading, people ask if I would tell them if something bad was going to happen(most things that appear negative will eventually have a positive outcome, so it is usually a perception we are talking about anyway) and depending on how strong the impression and if it keeps coming up during the reading is the time I will relay news of that sort. I also do not give false hope either. Sometimes knowing if you continue in a particular direction you will create certain results can help someone with a decision or a plan of action and other times not. At times I can pick up a complete image of people and settings, but I cannot always tell you if it would be significant, just that it will happen. If you want to learn more about how I read or what you would expect from a reading with me, please feel free to contact me at my website www.thepsychiccoach.com , I love answering questions regarding this subject.

Writing

2005-05-04T16:48:00.000-07:00

Free writing leads to creativity. When you have a journal or pad of paper in front of you, think of nothing in particular and see what you write. It can be a very enjoyable experience and cathartic if the mind decides to participate. Observe what your mind thinks if you notice specifc thoughts coming in as you write, notice the feeling associated with those thoughts. Keep writing as long as you want. When you stop read what you have written. When you read the words does anything come to mind or have you written a specific experience? A fantasy? A question? An answer? Not that you need to analyze it, but when you wrote were you able to leave the thinking mind at bay and just flow? If your mind was actively engaged in each word that you wrote, did you watch the thoughts develop...and catch the feeling with them? It is simple really, you can watch your thoughts, be your thoughts or be so present in the moment that you don't notice your thoughts, because you are just going with the flow. To be in the flow is to not be resistant and when you are not resistant creativity comes to you freely. I have a newsletter I put out through my website www.thepsychiccoach.com and if you would like to discuss the subject more you can sign up there.

Training

2005-05-03T09:02:00.000-07:00

I ran a marathon last year. It was my first although I have been running for years. I loved the experience, it was one which deeply enhanced my connection to others. I signed up last winter to run a marathon in the Summer with a non profit organization raising money for a disease. I had the goal in front of me and the plan to achieve my goal. I was determined and focused on my program. I went about raising money for the race and found the most unexpected responses from some people. People I hardly knew gave me not only money, but their feelings about what I was doing. They were with me in spirit and support. The group of people who had also pledged to run this marathon with me became important in my life. I enoyed this process so much, every moment of those 6 months was one of joy(sometimes pain when running 24 miles on a training run) and experiencing complete presence in that time. The race itself was an accomplishment, but the road there was one I will treasure, I learned about my life and the will and strength of many others. Watching people I did not know running with pictures of those they had lost or loved ones who were in treatment pinned to their backs as they ran 26.2 miles was an experience of deep connection and love. It was also one of the best examples I use when showing how to be focused not just on the practical goals in life, but the path to them. If you are interested in learning more about the process of how I coach and the planning of goals. You can go to my website of you like and read more about it at www.thepsychiccoach.com

connections

2005-05-02T07:50:00.000-07:00

In talking with a client recently. The word connection kept coming up. Connection in relation to others. Ones you have had a prior relation with and are no longer in contact at this time, but still feel a connection. Or connections with people when you meet them, a sense of familiarity. The word connection was also used in relation to all living things from plants, animals to the air we breathe. The client and I had a philosophical discussion regarding the connection of all things. She still felt this deep connection to a past love, which at times would drive her insane because of the ego need to grasp onto that connection instead of seeing it for what it truly was and not for what she wanted it to be. I am curious to know how others define connections. Your experiences with connections would be welcome. Please email me through my website if you have anything you would like to share at www.thepsychiccoach.com regarding your thoughts on connection. I think allowing ourselves to be connected instead of separate is a way to inner peace. We are never cut off, only when our minds convince us that we are....but once you see the thought process of separation and pay attention to it, you will recognize it for what it is "a thought" not the truth. When you relax your mind and are present in the moment you feel connected to everything, you can feel the connection through every cell in your body. Connection can be deepened the closer you are to living this and every moment in the present.

The Past

2005-05-01T13:09:00.000-07:00

Why is the past where many people live about 80% of the time? The past is not happening in the present moment. So, why do we allow our thoughts to dwell on the past as though it were still alive right now? Does it ever solve or resolve anything to dwell? No, it never does--ever. Can you change the past? No you cannot change what has been done before now. Doesn't it feel better to focus on this moment and not live elsewhere? You cannot change the past, you can only live in the now. If you have toxic relationships with people from the past who are still in your present day life, what do you do? You stop living in the past with these relationships, you stop allowing yourself to hold the pain of the past in the present when you communicate with someone who has been toxic in your life. You have two choices at that time to accept the person for whom they are and not accept their behavior toward you or you completely leave the situation if it is going to cause you more pain. If a person cannot agree to relating to you in a manner which is appropriate rather than violent, harmful or traumatic, then you may have to let go of the relationship. It does not matter what has happened in the past, except as something you have learned from--not something you dwell on in hopes that a miracle will come and change things. Once you let go of the past things that were problematic will usually self-correct. There is no good to come from dwelling, all that comes is more dwelling and pain. If you are interested in hearing more about the concept of past, feel free to join my monthly newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com. Thanks for reading.

The trees

2005-05-01T08:23:00.000-07:00

Nature. I love nature. Whether I am running on my daily jogs or meditating in the open splendor of the mountains near my home, my surroundings bring me peace. When I run each day, I watch the flowers, plants and trees...I watch the birds as the sun shines on their feathers eminating shadows on the ground below, squirrels squabbling over their prize, peacocks moseying down someone's driveway, deer gracefully jumping across the road and up under the brush and rabbits in a line hopping from bush to bush. It is beautiful and so peaceful to watch. I instantly relax when I observe nature. I watch the flowers bending in the wind, noticing they don't struggle against what is. The water rushing down the street or through a small stream carrying in its rush downhill small berries from the trees. I notice the berries float along the water and do not try to stop it or struggle against its power. All is accepted for what it is and there is no apparent thought to force a stop. Humans are usually in a state of wanting to change what is and do not accept the current moment for what it is....and this leads to pain, because we struggle. If we stopped the struggle, accepted what is at this moment and decided to just go with the flow, what would happen? To continue this conversation you can go to my website www.thepsychiccoach.com and sign up for my newsletter where the discussions will be part of the monthly letter.

Happiness

2005-04-30T09:48:00.000-07:00

Happiness is defined in the dictionary as: Enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, satisfaction, or joy. Can we live in happiness every moment of the day? Can we experience a deep pleasure or joy at all times in our lives? I believe it is attainable. When you die all of your "problems" do too. When you live why do you have to host a stable of problems? Why not let them go now? All problems are in your mind, they are not really problems unless you make them problems. You may have a situation or something which needs to be resolved, but you do not have to personalize or make it part of you. Human beings do not always "act" or "react" in a perfect way and making a problem out of it is really not the answer. You cannot control another human being, so thinking you would be "happy" if someone would finally act the way you want them to is unrealistic and self-defeating. Accept the person for who they are, accept the situation for what it is and feel the struggle and pain inside stop. Why create a problem unnecessarily? Toward what end? Come up with an equitable solution to a practical matter, don't dwell on it making it a problem. Deal with it in the moment, or when it becomes necessary to address a situation. In my newsletter, ideas of happiness are discussed and different ways to have happiness here and now are also suggested. You can sign up for my newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com at any time.

Time

2005-04-29T09:24:00.000-07:00

Time is used. Time is all some have, and others there is never enough time, they need more time. Time is past, present and future. The concept of time is what we all live our lives around. The only time which has meaning is the present time, it is the moment you are now breathing and living in. You can make the most of this moment instead of waiting for a tomorrow which may never come. A tomorrow which you believe will change your life and you could wait your whole life and look back....to see...yourself waiting and waiting.....and having spent your life waiting. It may then be considered a waste of time. Why not live every moment to its fullest? Be a part of life instead of separate? I can look back and see where the hope of tomorrow's dreams coming true does not happen. And if something which was long waited for and focused on finally happens, it is anti-climatic. The only time a goal is fulfilling is when my life has been lived enjoying the moment I am in and working toward the goal. Every moment is then satisfying and then the goal is reached and it feels good, but it is not as important as the "means" to the end. The life we have is the only life we have right now. Being miserable about what you don't have or about something that did not go your way is a choice. Spending "time" dwelling on it, does not resolve it.....it only feeds into the misery. Spending time looking ahead to when you think things will be better does not help, because it is a projection of the future. You don't know what the future holds, so how can you live there? That is why living in the present time brings the most satisfaction. Time is disucssed more in depth in my monthy newsletters, you can sign up for it at www.thepsychiccoach.com if you are interested in learning more on this subject.

Emotions and memory

2005-04-28T13:58:00.000-07:00

Emotions can pack an unexpected wallop when they come out of the blue. You think a situation or a relationship from the past is over or has been over for a long time and then "surprise" something reminds you of the situation or person. It could be a glimpse of someone who looks like them or a situation which resembles one from the past and sometimes it is nothing in particular that triggers the memory. The emotional response is usually not what you expect, something that caused you a great deal of grief when brought to the forefront now may have no visible affect or it can be just as intense as when it occured in the past. If you go into the feeling--don't analyze-but just go through it, you find it loses its intensity or you find there is nothing really there anymore. When there is nothing there especially when it was a very painful past situation and you separate your "antcipated" feeling from your actual feeling, you realize you may have carried around a perception in your mind which is dead. Your mind should never be allowed to dwell in the past, it can create all sorts of imaginary situations and delude you completely. Learn from your past mistakes in a practical sense, but don't waste time dwelling. With dwelling there is never a happy solution, only more dwelling. And when the sitaution or person from the past does pay a visit, it is nothing which could have been anticipated anyway. You will naturally know what to do when the time comes and will be equipped in that moment to deal with it, rather than ruminating on anticipation of a possible scenario. I discuss ideas such as emotions and the past in my monthly newsletters. If you are interested in finding out more about this topic, you can sign up for my newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com

Prayer and Candles

2005-04-27T08:48:00.000-07:00

As I said in an earlier post regarding focus and candles, it is all about the intention. Your intention is your full presence in the moment. I had a client who has been going through a lot of pain because of a few situations that are currently making it difficult for her to function in her life. She has had pain her whole life, more than many people. She is aware of it and wants to have more peace inside. She is also aware she cannot force things to happen through sheer since of will and that acceptance of people or situations is all she can do in the circumstances which now exist. In her case she needed something to focus on outside of herself which she felt would connect her to Being(the Universe, God, Emptiness,etc...) and bring about a sense of peace even if it is temporary. As Eckhart Tolle describes focusing on a part of the body at a cellular level, focusing on the aliveness of something will bring you peace in that minute for her focusing on the prayer of new beginnings right now as she stared at the candle brought her peace. She focused on clearing the past away, and a clean slate(which when you live in the moment each moment is a clean slate) not asking for specific "things" or situations to happen, but just an overall peace in her life. After lighting the candle yesterday, she felt an immediate change. She felt lighter not as burdened and not in her head. She was more at peace, her mind not drowning her out with a million different thoughts needing attention. Even if it is temporary, she is living in the present moment, not knowing or worrying what the next moment will bring, but feeling like she is a part of everything rather than isolated in her problematic and desperate thinking mind. Little tidbits of client situations I share in my newsletter which you can sign up for at www.thepsychiccoach.com that others may relate to at a certain moment in their life. The thing here is that the candle was a symbol, she could have focused all of her intention on a tree outside or a blade of grass, it really doesn't matter as long as you can be fully present to this moment.

Softball coaching

2005-04-26T14:27:00.000-07:00

I coach softball for the team one of my children is playing on and we played the first place team recently. It was a close game and the manager is a nice man who has coached my kids in the past. Anyway, we almost won and he asked what I was doing. The pool of talent on my team does not compare to their enthusiasm for the game and each other. I told him the girls were following a Zen way of being, while playing softball. They dropped or let go of anything which said "win or lose", the point was to have fun, period. No worrying necessary, just relax and play. Do not over-think, over-analyze, stress out or bombard yourself with thinking. Just be. Since having this talk a couple games into our season, we have not lost many games and even the ones we did, the girls played like a team, the camaraderie and sense of accomplishment were there. The girls do a cheer "Have fun and Zen!" We do not focus so much on anything but being in the moment. I tell them when they make an error to not focus on it and to not think of the score, but to use the opportunity of this minute to make it whatever they want it to be. It really has made a difference. Although I do coach softball for fun, I also offer coaching through my website www.thepsychiccoach.com on listed there are some of the areas which I do focus on when helping clients.

Singing bowls

2005-04-25T17:46:00.000-07:00

There are many people in the world who give psychic readings. My only words of warning come through experiences I had several years go. Anyone who tells you to buy singing bowls and that you need to give them the money so they can purchase them for you to “clear your energy” is not doing you any favors. They are taking your money. No one has to go to any other person to have energy cleared or obstacles removed; you can remove your own obstacles. Or you can find someone to help guide you in letting go of situations which keep you in a state of unhappiness. But, no one is going to cast a magic spell which will change your life. And a bowl, candle or potion cannot do the trick either. Although the amount of presence and intention it takes to focus on a spell or the purpose you deem important in lighting a candle can be used to "just focus" on this moment. If you focus on this moment with intense presence, you will find some peace there. On my website www.thepsychiccoach.com I discuss the power of the present moment and in my newsletters I send over the internet.

Los Angeles Psychic

2005-04-25T16:20:00.000-07:00

I am in the Los Angeles area, but many of my clients who live here still do not come see me in person. Many of them prefer phone readings. So many have busy lives, I have given readings to people when they have been shopping, sitting in a park, in their car, while they were traveling on vacation, and other interesting locations. Sometimes my clients just a need a little shot in the arm, so hearing my voice or providing small sign posts to them to reassure them they are on the path and not to worry is all it takes. Worrying is never worth the discomfort it causes, nor the energy it takes to focus on it. Many thoughts that we analyze are not worth the energy, because they lead nowhere.Even if you have an "aha!" moment when analyzing an emotional situation, give your mind a few more minutes and it will find something wrong with that conclusion you have just drawn. So, then you are back to square one reviewing and analyzing your perception of the facts. It is a vicious circle and most of the time if it is not a "practical" matter, but a psychological one, you would find by taking your mind and focusing on the tree outside or the bird singing or your breathing that you short circuit the motherboard in your head. I have a monthly newsletter at www.thepsychiccoach.com that talks about these concepts and more....

Setting Goals

2005-04-25T08:25:00.000-07:00

In setting goals, many people forget the process along the way. They live in the future, seeing themselves with the goal achieved and how it may change their outward circumstances. When living in the future or the past for that matter, you do not honor the present moment. Many times when someone attains a long sought after goal they may enjoy it for a moment, before they are again the same person they were before the goal. The goal is empty, the outside may have changed, but the inside remains the same. When you are fully living in the moment, the process of reaching your goals is enjoyed. The process is no longer just a means to an end. The experience itself is transformative, so when you reach your goals there is no longer an empty feeling. My website www.thepsychiccoach.com has further commentary on goal planning and how each moment of our lives should be enjoyed now.

free psychic readings

2005-04-24T22:31:00.000-07:00

I like to give psychic readings. I do not mind giving an initial free reading for 5 minutes. This way the individual can decide if they want to proceed any further with a full reading for a longer period of time. I never would want someone to feel they have wasted their money enlisting my services. I have been giving readings all my life in different capacities. I didn’t really understand it when I was younger, people always came to me for advice even as a child. When I give readings I make sure it is understood that we have “free will” and the power to change our lives in a moment. I also let people know I am not God and I do not have all the answers, although I do have the ability to convey what “is” at the time indications of past, present and future. I developed my website www.thepsychiccoach.com to be a wealth of information for anyone who is seeking information regarding coaching and psychic readings. I have also placed several links to other sites, which delve into psychic and spiritual information.

Questions about goals

2005-04-24T20:28:00.000-07:00

Coaching my clients brings me a great deal of satisfaction. The first part of coaching is to become aware of your thoughts. Watch your thoughts. Become aware of feelings attached to the thoughts. It actually helps in planning goals. When you connect the feelings to the thoughts, you are much clearer on the “read” you get when you look at a prospective goal. Is it what you really want? Why do you want that particular goal? Will it help you achieve a more present, happier self? Will it bring you inner peace or outer riches? Or both? If you want to enjoy more inner peace, do not dwell on "time" past or future. You can look to the past to learn from, not dwell on experiences and to the future as what you are planning today. On my website www.thepsychiccoach.com I go further with the "idea" of goals and the planning to someday enjoy the attainment of the goals.

Peace

2005-04-24T12:42:00.000-07:00

I have carried a certain level of peace with me for years. I have forced myself to walk through trials by fire, trying to rid myself of anything which blocked my true nature. I have figuratively bled and let it go. I have faced fear in its many insidious forms and in different manners. Each way I have faced fear, has brought me even more peace inside. I no longer analyze any of it, I go into the feeling and it dissipates. It is easy, if the world would take its will inward and accept everything in this moment, we would be a world full of peace. With acceptance comes peace, as I like to say “It is what it is”. If this topic or related topcis interest you, visit my web site at www.thepsychiccoach.com for more discussion on this subject.

Have a Nice Day

2005-04-24T07:30:00.000-07:00

Your mind is not who you are. Your mind is a mixture of thoughts, reactions and actions. Who you are is separate from your mind. Who you are does not stand in the river, it floats along the river. Who you are is part of so much more than just you the individual. When people separate themselves it brings depressing or angry thoughts and most of the time the thoughts are allowed to feed into and make an unhappy self. Your thoughts are not who you are, they are transient, just thoughts. Who you are is not an emotion or a feeling, who you are is much greater than to be affected by life situations. Many times just connecting with people for a few minutes can bring a tremendous change in demeanor. Even telling the clerk at the grocery store to “Have a nice day” or thanking someone for an action, can bring some pleasure to you, it is so simple. One of the ways I help people is by coaching them to take the steps toward more peace, I talk about it on my website www.ThePsychicCoach.com , feel free to visit me there and send an email.

Spiritual Awakening

2005-04-23T19:41:00.000-07:00

I have experienced spiritual awakening in a few steps. When I began my quest several years ago, “searching” for inner peace. I had no idea that it already existed inside me, all I had to do was uncover it. At one point I went under a profound transformation, which had come about through circumstances I could not accept. I was in deep despair for weeks. I turned to meditation and at the time releasing through different methods my inner demons. I looked at them and let them go. Slowly, I felt a new sensation inside. Instead of the constant unease and misery I had carried my whole life, I felt solid, present in the moment and at ease. Part of what services I offer through my website www.Thepsychiccoach.com is helping people to achieve more inner peace.

Acceptance of reality

2005-04-23T08:46:00.000-07:00

Just because you accept the reality does not make you powerless. You just stop the struggle against an outside situation or person. You let it go, you release it or whatever term it is you want to use. If something needs to be dealt with as in you find someone’s behavior intolerable or disrespectful, you can still say something but there is no longer you wrapped up in it and relying on a certain outcome. When you let go of what your “mind” perceives the end result “must” be then you are free. You no longer live in anticipation and disappointment. You live in the present and deal with situations as they arise, you do not ruminate, dwelling on some emotional problem. Acceptance of reality is a step toward peace, on my website www.thepsychiccoach.com there is more information regarding how non-acceptance creates pain inside.

Spiritual books

2005-04-22T12:39:00.000-07:00

Having read so many books on spirituality, it occurred to me at one point that they all point to the same thing. Philosophies and religions such as Buddhism, Taoism, Sufism and well known books such as a Course in Miracles, The Power of Now, The Four Agreements, etc... all have the same underlying pointers in what direction they take an individual. They all separate the problems of the world from your true self, being or soul (whichever term is preferred) and in allowing your true self to just “be” creates inner peace. I talk about this more on my website www.ThePsychicCoach.com , we all have the capacity to achieve inner peace.

Welcome to the "Power of Now" in your life blog!

2005-04-22T09:00:00.000-07:00

Welcome to the "Power of Now" in your life blog. My goal is to provide you with tools to allow peace of mind, let go of the past, not live in anticipation of the future and be fully present in this very moment in planning and achieving your personal or professional goals. I am here to point you toward the achievement of inner peace and "enjoying the road" toward your dreams professionally and personally. Feel free to visit my web site The Psychic Coach.com to join my newsletter or to contact me.